“If you focus on results, you will never change. If you focus on change, you will get results.” ~Jack Dixon
So originally, I started to write a blog telling people tons of different New Year’s resolutions and how to ensure it happens.
Isn’t that’s what we bloggers do around the end of the year: share our best ideas for improving our lives and the lives of others? Even when we know that we are going to give up on our resolutions within a few weeks. So I realized that it was not authentic whatsoever. Honestly I do not believe that New Year’s Day is any different than any other day. Nor do I believe that at a random point in the year we have created requirements for us to make an unrealistic or challenging list of things we need to change or improve. New Year’s Eve is, in fact, just another day, and the next day is one, as well.
Not trying to minimize the excitement of the New Year, or any of the days we’ve chosen to celebrate for honorary reasons as Caribbean people we love a big event and the excitement as much as the next person; in fact, sometimes we bust out the champagne and throw ourselves a little party. What I’m saying is that New Year’s resolutions often fail for a reason, and it’s only slightly related to intention or discipline.
Resolutions fail because they don’t emerge from true breakthroughs. They’re calendar-driven obligations and they often address the symptoms, not the cause of our unhappiness.
Some resolutions are smart for our physical and emotional health and well-being such as ending violence against women. But if we don’t address what underlies our needs to light up and make a change, will it really help to vow on one arbitrary day to give up everything that helps us pretend we’re fine? It’s almost like we set ourselves up for failure to avoid addressing the messy stuff.
For 2017 putting an end to violence against women requires the mobilization of all our partners in society: politicians, public authorities, the education system,and religious leaders, etc. It is the responsibility of each and every one of us. Stop the violence against women. Sometimes all we want is to run away from this life but that won’t solve any of our problems so we choose to stay. We choose to fight.
Now pour yourself a glass of wine and enjoy the dawn of the new year!