A Letter To My Abuser

Dear Ricky,

I hope you are well and good in health too. I just want to say that I want you to stop abusing women the way you did to me and to change your wicked and evil ways. The way you act at times makes me question if you are a human being with a working heart. When you hit me then dragged me through the dirt I came to the conclusion that you are not human! But I do believe something good can come from you if you just ask the Lord to change you.

I honestly think you need counselling and you need to learn how to treat the woman you are with in a good and respectable way. Always be reminded that you have a mother and sisters. Before you hit a woman or say anything bad to or about her, ask yourself “how would ‘I’ feel if they were getting abuse from a man? What would ‘I’ do?”

Please start treating women with respect  and show them love. The rest is up to you, believe in yourself! If you do not change the bad treatment you give women you will end up in jail! And that is where you will belong then. You need to end all forms of violence against women and stop saying that you have a heart until you start acting like you do only then will good come from you.

Be a real BIG MAN! And remember that God still loves you. Ask him for help.
One of Your Victims.


New Years Resolution: Stop Killing Us!

Over 10 women were gruesomely murdered in Jamaica since the beginning of December 2016.

JCW+ is still trying to understand the reasons for taking the lives of women as we strongly believe that there is no good enough reason to justify nor excuse such an inhumane act. By no means is the decision to kill a form of misstep. It may temporarily resolve the issues of the murderer, but however, it affects the lives of others in a negative, mournful way, or simply is an inevitable outcome given the circumstances of life. As much as I despise the the trajectory of life at times, it serves as an illustration wherein each ill fate made sense within the context of someone else’s individual life story. Regardless of how much we hate it, death serves a purpose – whether it be enhancing conflict or finish a life long trial.

The problem is however twofold: the death of women has become such norm and so overused in recent memory, the headlines are disturbing and has contributed to the shock value where the question is asked “how can a man say he loves a women and yet then kills her?” It hurts though because instead of taking the time to construct logical investigations and case development, the law enforcement officers tend to be the ones killing us women is such disturbed style. Within recent weeks these unnecessary, lazy, often brutal deaths, have all been inflicted upon minorities and communities that are usually a safe haven.

This killing of our women is not new factor in society it has now become rampant following the recent attacks on children – #KillOurWomen is now trending! There are reports of beheading, stabbing, execution style murders among others. These have captured our minds in a seemingly inescapable way. The undeniable fact that women do not have anywhere near as many voices as men do in the media and society, and are constantly killed, tortured, or marginalized because of whatever power they possess is truly something that needs to be addressed. Violence against our women and girls keep happening due to these disparities.

Whatever the intentions of the killers were, whether or not you believe the truth that women are woefully underrepresented in media but scandalized and are frequently the ones to suffer brutal disservice, you can’t deny the pandemic of women who have died for no justifiable reason. It’s the facts. You can’t.

Even though I stopped watching the news and reading the papers lately the air-play circulation and social media presentations of cruel and brutal violation of human rights portrayed against women has caused me to give some attention to it. Because of the marginalization of women due to gender standards, we are supposed to be different than men- physically weak and submissive. Us women are as equal and important as men to the growth and sustainability of our Jamaica. If these deaths were actually done by men, us women NEED to amplify our voices and demand that men join us in ending violence instead of perpetuating violence against us women. Partnership is just one the of ways for us to change in our world without resorting to a death. A woman’s right to life should not be determined by the hands of anyone but the Supreme Being. Especially in a situations where the female has ended a relationship to move on with their life. Although it may be an emotional time for both of you, there are effective means such as counseling, to enable mutually benefiting  departure. The is no Return If Possible button to life.

Are we to believe that by killing women, does not matter nor impacts our society negatively? Can you comprehend just how rare and important it is to preserve the lives of the givers of life? Women are the saviors and replenishes the earth, endlessly kind hearted and unquestionably good, the epitome of beauty, grace and bravery — women are the reason we are ALL here, and ultimately her existence, her sacrifice, was only important with regard to saving her male partner. We have made ourselves so unimportant to the grand finale of life, that you men act as if you can move on without her. She was expendable but only in her own show until you decided you have had enough.

It’s horrifying. It’s exhausting. Its sickening. I’m so tired of this!!

Women are not property. We do not exist to die for, well, some reason, we have not decided yet. Media caters to specifically young women in the midst of forming their sense in life. What will happen to these girls when they see all the women around them dying as if it were some sort of a fashion show? How exactly will that empower them. It never has and NEVER will! FYI its not fun to kill women for whatever reason you may feel. It does not enhance anything whatsoever especially NOT YOU!

We are not asking you to pander to or make fatal sacrifices, however we want to creative an impact to save the lives of women. What I’m insisting is that every decision we make i our lives be thoroughly thought-out and be vital somehow to our growth and development. Our choices don’t exist in a vacuum! Hold yourselves accountable. Look at the world outside the confines of your challenges. It is our responsibility to represent women, and as humans we should know firsthand how much media is capable of influencing, shaping, inspiring; how desperately the deaths of women and girls need representation.

So let us consider every angle. Educate ourselves. Write more, amplify our voices more, encourage more meaningful engagement of women in addressing our needs, let us get some positive results.

In 2017, we are telling you to Stop Killing Us! We deserve better, you should know better, and there’s no excuse anymore.



Push: On Your Face Or On Your Feet?

As we get ready to push our advocacy into full swing for the 16 days of activism, will we be falling on our face or landing on our feet?

Violence greatly impacts the lives of everyone and has destructive capabilities. Women and girls however, are more highly affected as we are more prone to sexual violence, physical and financial violence and in light of this we are often times referred to as the ‘weaker sex’. With all evidence pointing towards our susceptibility and vulnerability towards violence, women still remain systematically marginalized in efforts at all levels to prevent, resolve and recover from the abuse we encounter or witness. Also our participation in peace, justice, gender equity and security processes and institutions remains rather limited.

In an effort to address this, the Jamaica Community of Positive Women will embarked on a journey on the 16 Days of Activism towards sharing our hope of ending all forms of violence against women and their children. Throughout this journey we seek to utilize our empowered women to uphold their rights – and those of other women who have not yet arrived – to never tolerate nor excuse violence perpetuated against them. The women are also provided opportunities to identify their roles and responsibilities in ensuring peace, justice and security for all women and by extension the general population.

Since the adaption of the international campaign from the first Women’s Global Leadership Institute coordinated by the Center for Women’s Global Leadership in 1991, there has been visible achievements. Twenty two years after the 1994 genocide, Rwanda has a ratio of 64% female parliamentarians, the highest in the world.

The impact on women’s lives and their formal role in the decision making process has however, been sporadic; and while there has been significant progress in women’s participation in the advocacy movement to end violence against women overall, women represented less than 10% of persons involved. An Oxfam study of 23 known Afghanistan peace talks between 2005 and 2014, for example, found that during talks between the international community and the Taliban, not a single Afghan woman was involved. Women remain excluded even where evidence has shown that patriarchy efforts to find solutions or justify violent behaviors have failed for decades.

At various level women’s participation continues to be limited or rendered less meaningful by multiple factors to include poverty, social and economic discrimination and inequality as well as lack of technical capacity which is often times caused by the lack of access to education. Threats and acts of violence caused by political marginalization or manipulation contributes to the lacking in participation and recognition of women’s participation.

How do we address these damaging issues around the world especially with no transparency and political accountability for the actions of government’s inconsistency, and the dire need for greater efforts are needed to prevent gender-based violence?

Jamaica’s first “Orange Day” June 25


LASCO/NAJ Nurse of the Year 2015-2016 Treveen Palmer-Miller staged Jamaica’s very first “Orange Day” on Saturday, June 25, 2016 with a mile long march from Cross Roads to the Holy Cross Church in Half Way Tree Kingston.     It was a very brave move to make  UNiTE’s Orange Day the theme of her effort to increase dialogue and initiate action to end violence against women and girls.  The color orange is linked to one of the 2 main political parties and so this made it difficult for the Bureau of Women’s Affairs to embrace and promote Orange Day initiated and led by the UNiTE campaign which calls upon activists, governments and UN partners to mobilize people and highlight issues relevant to preventing and ending violence against women and girls on the 25th of every month. .

“Everyone has a role to play in breaking the barrier of gender inequality and violence. Too often, my colleagues and I witness the end result of violence against women and girls; when these ladies are able and willing to seek help or when the situation is at a critical point and they have no choice but to come to the hospital. I want to shape a nation where these instances are few or rare, where women are protected and cherished, where our value exceeds sexual interest and where our young girls grow up with self appreciation and worth,” said the LASCO Nurse of the Year.

Well done and congratulations to all the women and men who made the event a milestone in the journey to prevent all forms of violence against women and girls.

JCW+ Advocacy Working Group had 11 women participating in the Orange Day march.  We have Orange Day every month since November 2014.

Prevent & End Violence Against Women and Girls!

“Orange Day”  is a day to raise awareness and take action to end violence against women and girls.  Orange a bright and optimistic colour, orange represents a future free from violence against women and girls, for the UNiTE Campaign.  According to color psychology ‘orange’ offers emotional strength in difficult times. It helps us to bounce back from disappointments and despair, assisting in recovery from grief.

Living in a country where the color orange is linked to a popular political party hampers efforts to promote “UNiTE Orange Day.  The notice to the Bureau of Women’s Affairs remain just that, there was no optimism that Jamaicans would embrace ” Orange Day” raising awareness, spreading hope and giving attention to the violence faced by women at least 1 day of every month.

It is real that for every month of the year 2 women are murdered. April 14th a woman 8 months pregnant was dragged from her house and shot while her 3 children was inside the home. Today April 24, two women ages over 50 was found burnt to death after strange men were seen in the area.

Yes we are more aware that women are murdered, raped, denied financial opportunities, emotionally and physically abused.  We now have marches, and workshops to educate communities on gender based violence.

We can break the silence!




We need to stop being OK

Check out America’s violence dilemma!

We need to stop being OK with men’s violence against women,

89 percent of victims killed by alleged
male perpetrator

Women who kill their intimate partners are usually protecting themselves or their children.

Men who kill, on the other hand are most often motivated by extreme jealousy and possessiveness.

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