Dear Mister Abuser…..

Dear Mr. Abuser,

This is your victim speaking so listen and listen good. You took my voice, you took my peace of mind, you took my trust that I had for men away from me. You took my heart and tore it into pieces.

I cried for you to stop but you did not listen to me. You ignored me and I hated myself, I blamed me for what you did to me. I thought that I made this happen to me, I thought I was responsible for all that happened and other persons blamed me too. I felt ashamed but no more will I be broken!

No more will I hold my head down in shame of what YOU did to me! No more will I  take the blame for you. I am taking back my voice and my life. Its time we start stand for our rights and the rights of other children who are being abused and then blamed for the cause of the abuse. They are not be blamed for the abuse nor the perpetrators; how is it that the abuser goes free and blameless thereby removing the voice of the innocently abused?
We will stand for what is what is right. We will no more be silent!

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From Me To You

Dear Mr. Abuser,

I have observed your disrespectful behavior for so long recognizing that you are less than human. The damage, the hurt and pain you have inflicted on your wife and kids; and then call yourself a man.You are a monster! A worm… a nobody! Nothing but a common criminal.

How can you call yourself a father and a husband when you kick, box, punch, slap and verbally abuse those whom you say you love?

Your time is up Mr. The law is here to put you where you belong so you can stop being so evil and vile. You are an animal and you need to be caged. I’ve contacted CDA because you have violated the fundamental human rights of others. Yet still here you are free and at play. You have violated their rights to be happy but now you are going to pay!
Yours Truly,
V. Morgan – A fighter against violence

To Whom It May Concern

To Whom It May Concern

I am writing this letter to say that our children need special attention both at home and at school. The reality is that some parents or guardians are not looking about them and caring for them the way they are supposed to.

Children have rights to proper supervision, care and healthy lifestyle; as well as social welfare and religious well-being.

Our country Jamaica is blessed with so many positive people so let us work together to save our children.

Yours Truly,
A Concerned Citizen.

A Letter To My Abuser

Dear Ricky,

I hope you are well and good in health too. I just want to say that I want you to stop abusing women the way you did to me and to change your wicked and evil ways. The way you act at times makes me question if you are a human being with a working heart. When you hit me then dragged me through the dirt I came to the conclusion that you are not human! But I do believe something good can come from you if you just ask the Lord to change you.

I honestly think you need counselling and you need to learn how to treat the woman you are with in a good and respectable way. Always be reminded that you have a mother and sisters. Before you hit a woman or say anything bad to or about her, ask yourself “how would ‘I’ feel if they were getting abuse from a man? What would ‘I’ do?”

Please start treating women with respect  and show them love. The rest is up to you, believe in yourself! If you do not change the bad treatment you give women you will end up in jail! And that is where you will belong then. You need to end all forms of violence against women and stop saying that you have a heart until you start acting like you do only then will good come from you.

Be a real BIG MAN! And remember that God still loves you. Ask him for help.
Sincerely,
One of Your Victims.

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My Views on HIV Criminalization

There are three problems with this. Firstly, HIV experts from around the world concluded that HIV criminalization does nothing to stop the spreading of the virus; instead, these type of laws actually undermine the public health goal of promoting HIV screening and treatment.

If this law should be implemented in Jamaica, people will be even more afraid of knowing their status by implying that sexually active HIV positive people can go to prison if the virus has been transmitted to another.

Secondly, the laws are unjust and counterproductive, stigma and discrimination already surrounds HIV so turning every sexual encounter by positive individuals into a possible criminal act will only add to more shame and stigmatization.

Thirdly, most irritant (to my mind), the laws are simply bad science; most have not been updated since the early 90’s and thus reflect an almost laughable misunderstanding of the virus.

Sex always entails some level of risk. A risk we all are responsible for protecting ourselves against. In a perfect world, the disclosure discussion would precede every sexual encounter, but this isn’t a perfect world.

We will not make it better by locking away people under obsolete law rooted in uncontrollable emotion hysteria, negative attitude and feelings towards homosexuality and junk science.

By: JCW+ Participant

Getting Through Hard Times

Sophie Strachen

We are sturdy beings. But in many ways, we are fragile. We can accept change and loss, but this comes at our own pace and in our own way. And only we and God can determine the timing.
—Codependent No More
Hard times, stressful times, are not all there is to life, but they are part of life, growth, and moving forward.
What we do with hard times, or hard energy, is our choice.
We can use the energy of hard times to work out, and work through, our issues. We can use it to fine-tune our skills and our spirituality. Or we can go through these situations suffering, storing up bitterness, and refusing to grow or change.
Hard times can motivate and mold us to bring out our best. We can use these times to move forward and upward to higher levels of living, loving, and growth.
The choice is ours. Will we let ourselves feel? Will we take a spiritual approach, including gratitude, toward the event? Will we question life and our Higher Power by asking what we’re supposed to be learning and doing? Or will we use the incident to prove old, negative beliefs? Will we say, “Nothing good ever happens to me…. I’m just a victim…. People can’t be trusted…. Life isn’t worth living”?
We do not always require hard energy, or stress, to motivate us to grow and change. We do not have to create stress, seek it, or attract it. But if it’s there, we can learn to channel it into growth and use it for achieving what’s good in life.
God, let my hard times be healing times.

SEXUAL VIOLENCE …. Break the silence

 

Women ages 20 -50 years old

Use one sentence to describe your first sexual encounter

Responses:

I was led to believe that we were going to meet his mother… his mother was not at home; he forced me to have sex.   I had avoided being alone with him for 1 year because I was determined to delay sex until marriage.     I was 14 years old

 

My first sexual encounter was embarrassing and painful.  I never planned to have sex, he did …I was forced…  I was 17

 

My first encounter was with a friend, I was gang raped by 7 of his family members and then given $2,000, I was 15 years old

 

It was not part of our friendship as children.  His friends held me down and gang raped me… My father was going to kill all of them… I was 13 years old

 

I was terrified and sad, I was influenced by friends…I was 14

 

Molestation started when I was 7 years old by a family friend…he was a big man… I was pregnant at age 13 for the landlord he was an old man

 

At age 16 I went to live with my uncle, he would come into my room and have sex with me.  He was in his late fifties